Have you ever noticed how easy it is to extend forgiveness to others? A friend apologizes for a mistake, and you let it go. A loved one wrongs you, and you find a way to move past it. Yet, when it comes to your own missteps, the same grace seems impossible to muster. You find yourself trapped in a loop of self-criticism, regret, and shame—a negative trance that refuses to release you. The inability to forgive yourself, despite being able to forgive others, is a common struggle. It’s a pattern rooted in deep-seated beliefs about worthiness, responsibility, and self-perception. But…
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If you’ve ever tried traditional counseling or talk therapy and felt like it didn’t work for you, you’re not alone. Many people seek therapy with the hope of finding relief, clarity, and a path forward—only to feel stuck, frustrated, or like they’re endlessly talking about problems without resolving them. This isn’t to say that talk therapy doesn’t work—it’s helped countless people and remains a valuable tool in the world of mental health. But the reality is, traditional therapy isn’t a one-size-fits-all solution. If you’ve felt like something was missing or like you’ve hit a wall, it might be time to…
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Postpartum depression (PPD) is often described as a silent struggle—a condition that clouds what should be one of the most joyful times in a parent’s life. For those experiencing it, PPD can feel isolating, overwhelming, and impossible to escape. But what if I told you that postpartum depression is not just a condition, but also a negative trance—one that you can break free from? Before we dive into what this means, let me make something clear: postpartum depression is real, and it’s challenging. It’s not just “baby blues” or a passing mood. However, it’s also not an unchangeable state. By…
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We often grow up thinking that holding on tight is what strong people do, while letting go means you’re weak. We’re told that grit, pushing through, and never quitting are signs of true character. But, you know, sometimes the real strength lies in knowing when to drop what doesn’t serve us anymore—be it a toxic relationship, a bad habit, or even a dream that’s turned into a nightmare. The Struggle with Release Letting go? That’s not always as easy as it sounds. The idea of losing control, of releasing someone or something we’re used to, can be terrifying. We get…
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It’s often said that your thoughts shape your reality. This phrase holds immense truth. What you focus on in your mind often manifests in your life, influencing your perception of the world, your behavior, and even the opportunities you attract. But while your thoughts play a critical role in shaping your experience, there’s an important distinction to remember: you are not your thoughts. This simple yet profound realization can transform the way you navigate through life. When you learn to observe your mental chatter without attachment, you open up a space for clarity, peace, and the freedom to choose differently.…
Comments closedYou have been lied to… Imagine losing a year of doing something you have loved doing for 60 years because of a traumatic accident and the lie you’ve been fed that it’s too hard or will take a long time to heal. Now, imagine how you would feel if you got your life back in less than an hour of your very first session. That’s what I do… For decades, people have been led to believe that healing from severe trauma and PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder) is a long, arduous process that takes years to navigate. You’ve probably heard it…
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In the world of holistic health, the concept that negative energy can impact our physical well-being is gaining traction. This idea suggests that the emotions and energy surrounding us, even from past generations, can have profound effects on our health. A compelling example of this phenomenon comes from a study involving a World War II veteran who survived a Kamikaze attack. This study illustrates how deeply embedded trauma can trigger physiological responses, even decades after the initial event. The WW2 Veteran Study In this study, a World War II veteran, who had survived a Kamikaze attack, was asked to watch…
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It’s easy to feel overwhelmed and pushed to our limits by the actions and words of others. Many people seek guidance on how to navigate these external pressures without losing their composure. As a mental wellness coach and coach, I often hear clients express their desire to learn techniques for preventing others from “pushing their buttons.” However, my approach to emotional well-being goes deeper than teaching mere defense mechanisms. Instead of focusing on how to keep others from pushing their buttons, I show my clients how to remove those buttons altogether. The Concept of “Buttons” To understand the significance of…
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In our fast-paced, modern world, pursuing happiness is like chasing a mirage in a desert. Many people spend their lives searching for happiness in external achievements, material possessions, and the validation of others, only to find that these sources offer fleeting moments of joy at best. The truth, however, is that happiness is not elusive—it is just often sought in the wrong places. Genuine happiness is not out there in the external but resides within each of us. The External Pursuit of Happiness From a young age, society conditions us to believe that happiness is linked to external accomplishments. We…
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In today’s fast-paced world, the importance of maintaining physical health is widely acknowledged. Most people understand the necessity of regular physical exercise to stay healthy, reduce stress, and increase longevity. However, a crucial aspect often overlooked is the need for regular mental wellness exercise. Just as our bodies need consistent activity to function optimally, our minds require regular exercise to stay healthy and resilient. The Connection Between Physical and Mental Wellness Our mental and physical health are intricately connected. A healthy body can support a healthy mind, and vice versa. Physical exercise releases endorphins, which are natural mood lifters, and…
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